Last Saturday I woke up at the ridiculous hour of 5:15am and got dressed to go and serve Kudu burgers with the Grahamstown Rotary Club at the PG Glass Mountain Drive half marathon. The morning started off catastrophically (as ridiculously early mornings usually do) as I stood outside my dorm with a cell phone that politely informed me that someone was trying to call, but rudely wouldn’t let me answer his call. I stood outside in the cold loosing feeling in my finger tips – despite my attempts to warm them up by dialling every number connected to a like-minded crazy person I could think of who perhaps would be up at this time. I was contemplating what to do when a lovely young lady walked by and let me use her much more amenable cell phone to call a Rotarian to come and pick me up a half an hour later than the time I was supposed to report for duty.
When I arrived a troop of Rotarians were already hard at work setting up the grille, hanging up signs and busily organizing the food to prepare. I tried to jump in and help as best I could, but didn’t find my niche until the lead Rotarian – Colin - asked if someone could make the sign indicating the prices of the Kudu Burger, the Egg and Bacon Roll, and the coffee that would be on sale this morning as part of our fundraising. A colouring champion since Elementary school, I knew I was the woman for the job. Two finger nails filed down to the skin and a pair of chalk-dusted trousers was the price I paid that morning to make my multicoloured beacon of enticement to draw the hungry runners, workers and spectators to our stand throughout the morning. It was worth it because not only did it serve as the price list and as the official “Open for Business Sign” letting the runners know that we were ready for their business; it also gave me the first tangible role of the morning and consequently led to my second role as burger preparer extraordinaire. This role took me back to my days in High School working at Godfathers Pizza. Adrenaline pumping I worked side by side with Les – the egg fryer; Eleanor – lettuce chopper and tomato slicer; Billy – bun preparer; James - money taker; Lynette -coffee maker, Dennis- onion fryer, Duncan – grille instructor, Harry – advertiser, and Wendy - master griller. Together we made 50 egg rolls, 140 kudu burgers and countless c ups of coffee. Under the director of Colin – lead organizer – the ten of us became a finely tuned fast food machine ready for the plethora of sweaty hungry customers that came our way in the morning and into the afternoon. When the machine was at high speed the only words spoken were directives like “Kudu burger no onions!;” “A roll with no toppings please” and “Sir, please purchase your ticket at the counter and then come back to the table to receive your order.” When the waves of customers subsided and the machine took a break the conversation shifted to politics, inquiries concerning personal lives, and jokes were made about my potential calling to work at McDonald’s upon my return home and Harry’s ability to produce an advertising call for Kudu burgers that was strikingly similar to those made for hot dogs at baseball games in the States.
When the morning was over I realized that I felt intently happy, content, and satisfied. Surprised at this feeling I didn’t really know what to do myself when it was time to quite working, clean up and go home. My partner in prep work – Lydia indicated that she was going straight to the store to buy a six pack of cold South African beer. That sounded nice, but I decided that I would take a hot shower and then a nap. Wendy gave me a ride home so that I could and it was great. As I awoke groggy in the afternoon a couple hours later, I started to analyse my feelings of euphoria from before. My mom always told me that when I feel depressed I should go and serve others. I always thought this was because by serving others one feels better about oneself and gives of oneself – simultaneously reminding him or her of the plethora of things we all have to give and the many things we have to be thankful for. This may be the case, but there is something more.
During my reflection, I think back to the times in my life where I have felt this way before... playing soccer in High School, travelling to Mexico for a mission trip in college, serving food at a soup kitchen, working at a pizza place, helping groups at a ropes course, living in Zambia… Interestingly these are not the most impressive things on my resume; nor are they things highlighted in my collection of scrap books. They are not even things in which I can claim as leadership experiences or moments that I would use as anecdotes during a job interview to show my skill in a certain area. They aren’t circumstances where I can claim victory – my soccer team always had a losing record and the best facilitator at a ropes course is the one not remembered. However, the similarity between all of these experiences is my involvement in a team – formal or informal – intentional or spontaneous. I was a helper, a worker, a player, a normal person trying to make sense of a complex situation – sometimes “getting it” and other times feeling so confused I have to take a deep breath and let it all go. However in the end I was involved and that was the most important part.
As a young person sorting out my future using my preferred method of guess and test (guessing at an occupation I think I would like to do and trying it out) I frequently get bombarded with the career and direction questions. Don’t get me wrong, these are important, but to be honest many times in response I find myself giving canned answers that I think people will want to hear and often which I want to believe myself – “I am focusing on my education so that I can focus on my career later.” “One day I hope to teach.” “I am going to DC to get a job at an NGO.” The truth is that I don’t really know what I will do – all of these things are options and all of them would be great. They scare me and excite me at the same time - I cherish them as dreams and hope that they will happen in the years to come … but really my hearts desire isn’t to have a title – the feeling of completeness isn’t there for me. My hearts desire it is to be part of it – the team, the mission, the community. I want to have a role – not necessarily a leadership role – just a role where I can be a part of something bigger than myself and reminds me of the power of people. I want to be a part of community that gets me up at 5:30 am to be stuck out in the cold and prepare to serve greasy burgers, get to know others, and realize that I matter – not as mastermind of some great event that people will speak of for years to come in which I will find my identity – but as a normal person with a role, an actor in a play written by a director much wiser than myself. Perhaps – in addition to the cognitive reminder of the ways in which we are all privileged – this is why serving is so powerful. It gives us each a role of equal significance and importance - a role not designed to give us individual benefits, but one that benefits the group, the collective, the team. In a time when individuals are in constant competition with each other, it is refreshing to find a place amidst friends, colleagues or even strangers where one can forget the competition between one another and focus instead on a mutual goal of achieving something larger that only a group working together could achieve- even if that goal is as simple as preparing fast food for hungry athletes.
Thursday, August 14, 2008
Monday, August 4, 2008
My Most Interesting Gift
When being hosted by Rotarians, one is often adorned with gifts: pins, flyers, mugs, pens, candy, wine and even the occasional T-Shirt. I have received all of these in abundance during my travels throughout South Africa. However, it wasn’t until my trip into the rural Northern Province that I received my most interesting gift. Ironically, it wasn’t actually from a Rotarian, but instead was facilitated by a Rotarian with vast connections.
In early July, during my winter break, I traveled to a little group of towns (Potschefstrom, Klerksdorp, and Orkney) about an hour south of Johannesburg to spend some time with Rotarians, give presentations, and get more acquainted with a different part of South Africa. Currently I am studying in a town called Grahamstown – it is an English speaking area that I have heard called “liberal” or “progressive” by different people outside of the town. Although I have a few Afrikaans speaking friends studying there, they are the minority and I had not had the opportunity to really converse with mainstream Afrikaans. That was until I went to Klerksdorp and stayed with an Afrikaans family.
I had a wonderful time with my hosts and was impressed with their kindness, generosity and their consistent joy in facing the challenges of everyday life. I was also impressed by the plethora of interesting activities I participated in that weekend. I saw cave drawings, visited hospice in the township, hung out with a youth group that did service projects in Mozambique, learned how to make a nice sound with a Vuvuzella (a well known tool for soccer fans in South Africa) – got one to take home, visited a game farm, and ate my weight in meat – biltong, boerewoers, kudu steaks, etc. Many memories were made and – as one would expect visiting a country where the big Five roam in the wild - the most fun involved animals.
After my presentation at the Klerksdorp Rotary Club, my host asked me if I had seen game while brainstorming potential afternoon activities for me to participate. To my honest affirmation that I had seen game in South Africa, he asked, “Yes, but have you touched game?” My eyes lit up and inquisitively I said, “That sounds interesting.” I wasn’t disappointed. Interesting is a very good word to describe a visit to the local taxidermist.
I never had the inclination to meet a taxidermist before. Although some of my extended relatives hunt, I didn’t really grow up with it nor did I pay any of my hunter friends a visit when the meat was hung in the garage. I confess I eat meat – all kinds of meat- so I can’t (and won’t) claim some sort of moral superiority in protecting the lives of animals (Sorry vegetarian friends). I certainly don’t believe in being cruel to animals before they are eaten – beating them, pumping them full of steroids, keeping them in places too confined – those types of behavior violate common decency. But utilizing the entire animal – meat, skin, tusks, bones, etc - after it has been hunted does not fit in the cruelty category for me. Thus, taxidermy should intrigue me. However, it still surprised me when I realized after being surrounded by the stuffed animals that I was – in fact - very intrigued.
After I adjusted to being in the still-life zoo, I meandered around and felt each animal skin as my host named the animal: first in Afrikaans, then in English. Warthog was rough with a few long hairs that were quite coarse. Zebra was smooth and felt very similar to a cow hide. The hippo was amazing and was smoother than I had anticipated. It was also interesting to see all of the various antelope side by side and learn to distinguish the hartebeest from the wildebeest, the kudu from the impala. Finally, to see the teeth of a lion so close helped me to appreciate the strength and majesty of the animal.
When I had wandered around the shop for about a half an hour - looking at each specimen with renewed interest – I figured it was about time to leave when the taxidermist himself arrived and asked if I wanted a guided tour of the process. He must have read my facial expression, because the next question he asked was if I got queasy easily. I hesitantly shook my head yes to the first question and responded with the same hesitancy to the second question: “I don’t think I do.” With that we agreed that I would view the process and hope that the smells were not too difficult for me to manage. Luckily they weren’t, but trying to describe the pungent odor that came from the process - not from the animals themselves, but from the various chemicals used to treat the skins - is difficult. I have blocked most of it from my memory, but I think the cocktail of smells might have included some sewage, a dash of sulfur, and a just a bit of something that resembled rotten tuna. Needless to expand – it wasn’t pleasant. Viewing this process was interesting though, and it consisted of preserving, scraping, preparing, and artfully placing the skins on the specialized mold made just for the animal in question. It was an international process: the molds and some of the customers came from the U.S., the marble eyes for the animals came from Germany, and the skins came from throughout Southern Africa. It takes about a year from the time a skin is dropped off by a hunter – cut in a specialized way needed to create a successful replica - to when he or she can expect his or her animal finished. Watching the technique involved in placing the skin with strong attention to detail making sure each animal looked real and alive. Witnessing this compelled me to see taxidermy as more of an art than a practice. I was impressed and thankful for the experience to challenge my presumptions.
As I talked with the taxidermist about the hunting laws in South Africa, culling, and the liaison that many hunters have with the local people – helping with over population and often leaving the meat behind and taking just the skin – I thought of how many times I make assumptions and judgments concerning things of which I know nothing. I smiled as I realized that after a couple more hunting stories, my host and I were on our way out. As a parting gift the taxidermist walked over to a stack of springbok skins and asked me to feel how soft they were. I did and stroked the skin - focusing my fingers on the razorback part of its hide where the white fur sticks on end. At my curiosity he smiled and picked up the skin – handed it to me – and said “A present to take home.” I accepted, humbled at such generosity from a stranger, but not necessarily surprised. Spontaneous generosity seems to flow from many people here – even to strangers. It is a saving grace in such a dynamic place.
Accepting this grace is how I came to receive my most interesting gift in South Africa.
In early July, during my winter break, I traveled to a little group of towns (Potschefstrom, Klerksdorp, and Orkney) about an hour south of Johannesburg to spend some time with Rotarians, give presentations, and get more acquainted with a different part of South Africa. Currently I am studying in a town called Grahamstown – it is an English speaking area that I have heard called “liberal” or “progressive” by different people outside of the town. Although I have a few Afrikaans speaking friends studying there, they are the minority and I had not had the opportunity to really converse with mainstream Afrikaans. That was until I went to Klerksdorp and stayed with an Afrikaans family.
I had a wonderful time with my hosts and was impressed with their kindness, generosity and their consistent joy in facing the challenges of everyday life. I was also impressed by the plethora of interesting activities I participated in that weekend. I saw cave drawings, visited hospice in the township, hung out with a youth group that did service projects in Mozambique, learned how to make a nice sound with a Vuvuzella (a well known tool for soccer fans in South Africa) – got one to take home, visited a game farm, and ate my weight in meat – biltong, boerewoers, kudu steaks, etc. Many memories were made and – as one would expect visiting a country where the big Five roam in the wild - the most fun involved animals.
After my presentation at the Klerksdorp Rotary Club, my host asked me if I had seen game while brainstorming potential afternoon activities for me to participate. To my honest affirmation that I had seen game in South Africa, he asked, “Yes, but have you touched game?” My eyes lit up and inquisitively I said, “That sounds interesting.” I wasn’t disappointed. Interesting is a very good word to describe a visit to the local taxidermist.
I never had the inclination to meet a taxidermist before. Although some of my extended relatives hunt, I didn’t really grow up with it nor did I pay any of my hunter friends a visit when the meat was hung in the garage. I confess I eat meat – all kinds of meat- so I can’t (and won’t) claim some sort of moral superiority in protecting the lives of animals (Sorry vegetarian friends). I certainly don’t believe in being cruel to animals before they are eaten – beating them, pumping them full of steroids, keeping them in places too confined – those types of behavior violate common decency. But utilizing the entire animal – meat, skin, tusks, bones, etc - after it has been hunted does not fit in the cruelty category for me. Thus, taxidermy should intrigue me. However, it still surprised me when I realized after being surrounded by the stuffed animals that I was – in fact - very intrigued.After I adjusted to being in the still-life zoo, I meandered around and felt each animal skin as my host named the animal: first in Afrikaans, then in English. Warthog was rough with a few long hairs that were quite coarse. Zebra was smooth and felt very similar to a cow hide. The hippo was amazing and was smoother than I had anticipated. It was also interesting to see all of the various antelope side by side and learn to distinguish the hartebeest from the wildebeest, the kudu from the impala. Finally, to see the teeth of a lion so close helped me to appreciate the strength and majesty of the animal.
When I had wandered around the shop for about a half an hour - looking at each specimen with renewed interest – I figured it was about time to leave when the taxidermist himself arrived and asked if I wanted a guided tour of the process. He must have read my facial expression, because the next question he asked was if I got queasy easily. I hesitantly shook my head yes to the first question and responded with the same hesitancy to the second question: “I don’t think I do.” With that we agreed that I would view the process and hope that the smells were not too difficult for me to manage. Luckily they weren’t, but trying to describe the pungent odor that came from the process - not from the animals themselves, but from the various chemicals used to treat the skins - is difficult. I have blocked most of it from my memory, but I think the cocktail of smells might have included some sewage, a dash of sulfur, and a just a bit of something that resembled rotten tuna. Needless to expand – it wasn’t pleasant. Viewing this process was interesting though, and it consisted of preserving, scraping, preparing, and artfully placing the skins on the specialized mold made just for the animal in question. It was an international process: the molds and some of the customers came from the U.S., the marble eyes for the animals came from Germany, and the skins came from throughout Southern Africa. It takes about a year from the time a skin is dropped off by a hunter – cut in a specialized way needed to create a successful replica - to when he or she can expect his or her animal finished. Watching the technique involved in placing the skin with strong attention to detail making sure each animal looked real and alive. Witnessing this compelled me to see taxidermy as more of an art than a practice. I was impressed and thankful for the experience to challenge my presumptions.
As I talked with the taxidermist about the hunting laws in South Africa, culling, and the liaison that many hunters have with the local people – helping with over population and often leaving the meat behind and taking just the skin – I thought of how many times I make assumptions and judgments concerning things of which I know nothing. I smiled as I realized that after a couple more hunting stories, my host and I were on our way out. As a parting gift the taxidermist walked over to a stack of springbok skins and asked me to feel how soft they were. I did and stroked the skin - focusing my fingers on the razorback part of its hide where the white fur sticks on end. At my curiosity he smiled and picked up the skin – handed it to me – and said “A present to take home.” I accepted, humbled at such generosity from a stranger, but not necessarily surprised. Spontaneous generosity seems to flow from many people here – even to strangers. It is a saving grace in such a dynamic place.Accepting this grace is how I came to receive my most interesting gift in South Africa.
My Xhosa Wedding
It is nice to be accepted as a foreigner by individuals. It is even nicer to be accepted and loved by a whole community.
Entembeni has been my refuge from school and a surprisingly Western lifestyle for several months now. I found it after a Rotarian brought the American students to share lunch with the elderly people who patronize the drop in center during the weekdays. The name means “place of hope” in Xhosa and as the director, Grace, tells visitors and members alike - it is a place of hope for all who enter its doors. The connection between Entembeni’s name and professed goals is refreshingly apparent when tasting the fruits of the outdoor vegetable and flower gardens maintained by the residents, hearing the melodic singing that prepares one for the prayers said before the meals, and laughing at the impromptu dancing when one of the residents remembers with jubilee how to work the CD player donated by the last American volunteer. I love this place and have often referred to it as my favorite place in Grahamstown.
My first couple times volunteering at Entembeni was on the skirt tails of Jeremy – an ideal American exchange student working on his undergraduate degree. The word ideal is optimal of Jeremy’s experience in South Africa because during his four months in country he left no experience by the wayside. Every traditional ceremony, every teensy morsel of South African food, every political conversation or protest, every word in Xhosa that came rushing past him - he lunged at with full force and gripped tightly as best he could until they became a part of him and his experience. Seven years younger than myself I was in awe of this young man, as well as encouraged and grateful when he joyful accepted my company on this bit of his adventure – traveling into the township of Josa to spend time and serve food to the elderly.
The first couple of visits everyone was friendly to me as I cherished the slowness of the afternoons away from school– weeding in the garden, helping serve the food, and occasionally helping clean up afterwards. For the most part the people were kind – as they always are – but I was really of no consequence. The most important part of me was that I was a friend of Sipho’s (Jeremy’s Xhosa identity) and thus should be loved as he was. However, curiosity concerning our relationship quickly spread as people noticed the engagement ring on my finger. “Ooooo,” one resident shouted with delight when we arrived out of a taxi. “Married?,” she questioned moving her eyes inquisitively back and forth from Jeremy and myself. “No” we responded in unison laughing at the assumption. Confused she then grabbed my left hand and started gently twisting the ring on my finger. I tried to explain: My husband (there really is no word for fiancé) is in the U.S.; I miss him a lot, but he is coming soon; when he does I will bring him to you so that you can meet him. Just like that I had made a promise to bring Dave to this beautiful place and introduce him to my weekly lazy afternoon ritual of weeding, singing, dancing, and serving.
As the time grew closer to his arrival I - for good reason - became more excited and the residents could tell. They would ask, “how much longer?,” then respond “woo hoo!” In the meantime I had been given a Xhosa name like Sipho (Jeremy). I was called Nomhle which means beauty. Coincidently I was given the name by another woman named Nomhle who also claimed that I was now her daughter and that I should introduce Dave (my fiancé) to her first. The director (Grace) and the cook (Connie) collectively decided that the residents would sing Xhosa wedding songs for us and this scheme developed as the time of his arrival drew closer to include aspects of a traditional wedding ceremony. Sipho was bummed that he would already be on a plane back home and would miss this aspect of Xhosa culture. I promised to send him pictures.
Not being as tenacious in my cultural studies as my young friend, I had no idea what to expect when we arrived that day. In addition, it was six days into Dave’s two week visit and for the past two days he had been in bed with food poisoning. He was hesitant to visit – mostly because he was reluctant to be so far from a bed – but I convinced him otherwise. When we arrived all of the cultural experiences we had missed from him being sick in bed were forgotten as women sang and danced in traditional clothing and painted faces (To explain- we had coincided our visit to during the famous Grahamstown Arts Festival - known to be the largest of its kind in Africa – but missed all but one of the shows we had reserved).
Dave politely introduced himself to all of the members of Entembeni – mastering the South African handshake of initially shaking one’s hand normally, then twisting your hand to shake with thumbs down and finally returning one’s hand to original position to shake normally finishing the greeting. He hugged Grace and Connie and sat by to wait for his bride to get adorned in some traditional clothing after the meal was served. Two of the teenage girls from the community who had volunteered with Sipho and myself for a couple weeks showed up to serve as my bridesmaids, and Noxolo - my beading friend – came as well to witness the celebrations.
The ceremony began with a greeting from the elderly men of the group. Tata Mkhulu – the 97
year old grandfather – was in charge of this part. After smiling at Dave and I while holding both our hands, he delegated the blessing to his number two – the slightly more talkative 93 year old grandfather. This man praised us on our transition and prayed for our future in a concise and non-elaborative blessing – also holding our hands while doing so. I then returned to my dressing room only to emerge again – hair wrapped and blanket tied around my waste and my head down led by my bridesmaids who were cued by the beautiful and clear throated singing of 
Qongqongthwane, a traditional wedding song. From that point I was paraded around the room - looking up only to be told to keep my head down by my bridesmaids – to the point where I came to a blanket on the floor on which I was indicated to sit. Dave was invited to sit on a chair next to my blanket and the women’s part of the ceremony continued. Three women came and gave us advice about our marriage. This was my favorite part. Each looked fervently into our eyes, shook their hands, waved their arms, and told us things like:
“If you fight – talk – don’t hit (looking briefly to Dave) and don’t run away (now redirecting their attention on me);”
“You will want to run back to your mother’s house, but that isn’t good – stay and talk and pray – if you have a problem - you talk;”
“No divorce. Married, no divorce. Love each other and stay – even when it is hard – then you will be happy in the end.”
After the advice was given – in my mind a perfect parallel to a homily given by the reverend at wedding – it came time to engage in another parallel to Western tradition and change our names. However, in Xhosa culture it is the first names that are changed, not the last. Thus, although I had cherished being called beautiful every day, this privilege was revoked and a new title was given to signify the passage from singleness to marriage. My name became Masilakhe which means “to build.” The ladies said that this was to represent my transition as I build a home and family with Dave. Dave was also given a new name - Winayi - meaning “winner.” According to the ladies this is because he won my affections and me as a wife – a particularly interesting coincidence understood by those who knew the story of Dave and my dating history and courtship.
After our names were changed, Connie and Grace – my two “African mamas” danced a bit with me and took pictures. We posed with elderly men and the elderly women in positions similar to those we will take in five months and smiled with one another – holding hands. My heart stirred
with joy at the prospect of marrying this wonderful man (who shows up half-sick to a ceremony in the Township because he knows how much the place means to me) but also at the love that exists between and within communities. My travels have often heightened my longing for home and loved ones; but at the same time they have made the larger aspect of community and connection more evident. It is simply amazing to be accepted and loved by communities – especially those so seemingly different (yet so similar) than one’s own.
Entembeni has been my refuge from school and a surprisingly Western lifestyle for several months now. I found it after a Rotarian brought the American students to share lunch with the elderly people who patronize the drop in center during the weekdays. The name means “place of hope” in Xhosa and as the director, Grace, tells visitors and members alike - it is a place of hope for all who enter its doors. The connection between Entembeni’s name and professed goals is refreshingly apparent when tasting the fruits of the outdoor vegetable and flower gardens maintained by the residents, hearing the melodic singing that prepares one for the prayers said before the meals, and laughing at the impromptu dancing when one of the residents remembers with jubilee how to work the CD player donated by the last American volunteer. I love this place and have often referred to it as my favorite place in Grahamstown.
My first couple times volunteering at Entembeni was on the skirt tails of Jeremy – an ideal American exchange student working on his undergraduate degree. The word ideal is optimal of Jeremy’s experience in South Africa because during his four months in country he left no experience by the wayside. Every traditional ceremony, every teensy morsel of South African food, every political conversation or protest, every word in Xhosa that came rushing past him - he lunged at with full force and gripped tightly as best he could until they became a part of him and his experience. Seven years younger than myself I was in awe of this young man, as well as encouraged and grateful when he joyful accepted my company on this bit of his adventure – traveling into the township of Josa to spend time and serve food to the elderly.
The first couple of visits everyone was friendly to me as I cherished the slowness of the afternoons away from school– weeding in the garden, helping serve the food, and occasionally helping clean up afterwards. For the most part the people were kind – as they always are – but I was really of no consequence. The most important part of me was that I was a friend of Sipho’s (Jeremy’s Xhosa identity) and thus should be loved as he was. However, curiosity concerning our relationship quickly spread as people noticed the engagement ring on my finger. “Ooooo,” one resident shouted with delight when we arrived out of a taxi. “Married?,” she questioned moving her eyes inquisitively back and forth from Jeremy and myself. “No” we responded in unison laughing at the assumption. Confused she then grabbed my left hand and started gently twisting the ring on my finger. I tried to explain: My husband (there really is no word for fiancé) is in the U.S.; I miss him a lot, but he is coming soon; when he does I will bring him to you so that you can meet him. Just like that I had made a promise to bring Dave to this beautiful place and introduce him to my weekly lazy afternoon ritual of weeding, singing, dancing, and serving.
As the time grew closer to his arrival I - for good reason - became more excited and the residents could tell. They would ask, “how much longer?,” then respond “woo hoo!” In the meantime I had been given a Xhosa name like Sipho (Jeremy). I was called Nomhle which means beauty. Coincidently I was given the name by another woman named Nomhle who also claimed that I was now her daughter and that I should introduce Dave (my fiancé) to her first. The director (Grace) and the cook (Connie) collectively decided that the residents would sing Xhosa wedding songs for us and this scheme developed as the time of his arrival drew closer to include aspects of a traditional wedding ceremony. Sipho was bummed that he would already be on a plane back home and would miss this aspect of Xhosa culture. I promised to send him pictures.
Not being as tenacious in my cultural studies as my young friend, I had no idea what to expect when we arrived that day. In addition, it was six days into Dave’s two week visit and for the past two days he had been in bed with food poisoning. He was hesitant to visit – mostly because he was reluctant to be so far from a bed – but I convinced him otherwise. When we arrived all of the cultural experiences we had missed from him being sick in bed were forgotten as women sang and danced in traditional clothing and painted faces (To explain- we had coincided our visit to during the famous Grahamstown Arts Festival - known to be the largest of its kind in Africa – but missed all but one of the shows we had reserved).
Dave politely introduced himself to all of the members of Entembeni – mastering the South African handshake of initially shaking one’s hand normally, then twisting your hand to shake with thumbs down and finally returning one’s hand to original position to shake normally finishing the greeting. He hugged Grace and Connie and sat by to wait for his bride to get adorned in some traditional clothing after the meal was served. Two of the teenage girls from the community who had volunteered with Sipho and myself for a couple weeks showed up to serve as my bridesmaids, and Noxolo - my beading friend – came as well to witness the celebrations.
The ceremony began with a greeting from the elderly men of the group. Tata Mkhulu – the 97
year old grandfather – was in charge of this part. After smiling at Dave and I while holding both our hands, he delegated the blessing to his number two – the slightly more talkative 93 year old grandfather. This man praised us on our transition and prayed for our future in a concise and non-elaborative blessing – also holding our hands while doing so. I then returned to my dressing room only to emerge again – hair wrapped and blanket tied around my waste and my head down led by my bridesmaids who were cued by the beautiful and clear throated singing of 
Qongqongthwane, a traditional wedding song. From that point I was paraded around the room - looking up only to be told to keep my head down by my bridesmaids – to the point where I came to a blanket on the floor on which I was indicated to sit. Dave was invited to sit on a chair next to my blanket and the women’s part of the ceremony continued. Three women came and gave us advice about our marriage. This was my favorite part. Each looked fervently into our eyes, shook their hands, waved their arms, and told us things like:“If you fight – talk – don’t hit (looking briefly to Dave) and don’t run away (now redirecting their attention on me);”
“You will want to run back to your mother’s house, but that isn’t good – stay and talk and pray – if you have a problem - you talk;”
“No divorce. Married, no divorce. Love each other and stay – even when it is hard – then you will be happy in the end.”
After the advice was given – in my mind a perfect parallel to a homily given by the reverend at wedding – it came time to engage in another parallel to Western tradition and change our names. However, in Xhosa culture it is the first names that are changed, not the last. Thus, although I had cherished being called beautiful every day, this privilege was revoked and a new title was given to signify the passage from singleness to marriage. My name became Masilakhe which means “to build.” The ladies said that this was to represent my transition as I build a home and family with Dave. Dave was also given a new name - Winayi - meaning “winner.” According to the ladies this is because he won my affections and me as a wife – a particularly interesting coincidence understood by those who knew the story of Dave and my dating history and courtship.
After our names were changed, Connie and Grace – my two “African mamas” danced a bit with me and took pictures. We posed with elderly men and the elderly women in positions similar to those we will take in five months and smiled with one another – holding hands. My heart stirred
with joy at the prospect of marrying this wonderful man (who shows up half-sick to a ceremony in the Township because he knows how much the place means to me) but also at the love that exists between and within communities. My travels have often heightened my longing for home and loved ones; but at the same time they have made the larger aspect of community and connection more evident. It is simply amazing to be accepted and loved by communities – especially those so seemingly different (yet so similar) than one’s own.
Monday, June 16, 2008
My Traitor's Heart
I just finished an amazing book about South Africa called My Traitor’s Heart by Rian Malan. Malan is a seventh generation white Afrikaans speaking South African whose ancestors were part of establishing apartheid. His book is about his own struggle with his identity, privilege, and the issues of South Africa – past and present. The book was written before the end of apartheid – in 1990 – but it is telling even of today concerning the struggles – both internal and external. I won’t summarize the book, but I will suggest you to read it if possible. I will however tell you why it is impacting my experience today.
It is an interesting time to be here. I regret that I haven’t shared more about the popular events of today – the crisis in Zimbabwe, the xenophobia attacks in the townships, the political struggles and food shortages. It isn’t that I haven’t been paying attention, nor that I don’t care. It is simply hard to express – difficult to articulate in a way that is fair and complete. I feel so ill-equipped to do Africa justice – to talk about the struggles and the successes. Because of it I am hesitant to speak of the struggles, but I am sure that isn’t fair either.
Malan’s book is depressing in one sense. It presents a difficult view of South Africa – the history, the struggles, and the solutions. However, it also speaks of the one thing that persists in my impression of this country and its people – its/their tenacity. It is not easy here. Even for the privileged. I believe that there is a constant search for identity in this country that is both exhilarating and confusing at the same time. To be South African means something dynamic and special. It means that one has a violent history of recent oppression and tyranny that was overcome through a people’s movement. It means living under one of the world’s best, most inclusive constitutions to be enforced by new leaders – often idealistic and a bit inexperienced. It means living with the dichotomy of first world and third world privileges and problems separated by – in some cases – only a river or a set of railroad tracks. It means struggling for a world identity – being proud of the successes of integrating socialist tendencies from the current ruling party - the African National Congress - and its past leaders such as Mandela, but also being ashamed of the little struggles involved in assuming power witnessed by the world – the electricity shortage and violence eruption. It means more things that I could possibly put on this page and I am overcome.
Rotarians keep asking me my impressions. They are businessmen and women struggling with the day to day aspects of living, sending their children to schools, and attempting to participate in as many solutions as possible – struggling with the set backs and rejoicing with the successes. I can see the struggle and I am nervous to answer their questions – I have impressions, but are any of them simple enough to express in a couple sentences? I often talk of tenacity and the virtuous spirit I see around me at Entembeni and with those who volunteer to help the communities – aiding the government and the transition started 14 years ago but continuing today. I don’t want to ignore the struggles – I know they exist, but I don’t offer a quick solution. I don’t think it is my task here of my privilege as an outsider. All I can do is to hold on to my litany and continue to say is that I am impressed with the graciousness of spirit here and the individuals who are committing to changing the ills here, not willing to run away despite the confusion and problems. I am impressed South Africa – not because you are perfect – without violence, problems, or confusion – but because you try and keep trying.
It is an interesting time to be here. I regret that I haven’t shared more about the popular events of today – the crisis in Zimbabwe, the xenophobia attacks in the townships, the political struggles and food shortages. It isn’t that I haven’t been paying attention, nor that I don’t care. It is simply hard to express – difficult to articulate in a way that is fair and complete. I feel so ill-equipped to do Africa justice – to talk about the struggles and the successes. Because of it I am hesitant to speak of the struggles, but I am sure that isn’t fair either.
Malan’s book is depressing in one sense. It presents a difficult view of South Africa – the history, the struggles, and the solutions. However, it also speaks of the one thing that persists in my impression of this country and its people – its/their tenacity. It is not easy here. Even for the privileged. I believe that there is a constant search for identity in this country that is both exhilarating and confusing at the same time. To be South African means something dynamic and special. It means that one has a violent history of recent oppression and tyranny that was overcome through a people’s movement. It means living under one of the world’s best, most inclusive constitutions to be enforced by new leaders – often idealistic and a bit inexperienced. It means living with the dichotomy of first world and third world privileges and problems separated by – in some cases – only a river or a set of railroad tracks. It means struggling for a world identity – being proud of the successes of integrating socialist tendencies from the current ruling party - the African National Congress - and its past leaders such as Mandela, but also being ashamed of the little struggles involved in assuming power witnessed by the world – the electricity shortage and violence eruption. It means more things that I could possibly put on this page and I am overcome.
Rotarians keep asking me my impressions. They are businessmen and women struggling with the day to day aspects of living, sending their children to schools, and attempting to participate in as many solutions as possible – struggling with the set backs and rejoicing with the successes. I can see the struggle and I am nervous to answer their questions – I have impressions, but are any of them simple enough to express in a couple sentences? I often talk of tenacity and the virtuous spirit I see around me at Entembeni and with those who volunteer to help the communities – aiding the government and the transition started 14 years ago but continuing today. I don’t want to ignore the struggles – I know they exist, but I don’t offer a quick solution. I don’t think it is my task here of my privilege as an outsider. All I can do is to hold on to my litany and continue to say is that I am impressed with the graciousness of spirit here and the individuals who are committing to changing the ills here, not willing to run away despite the confusion and problems. I am impressed South Africa – not because you are perfect – without violence, problems, or confusion – but because you try and keep trying.
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
So I promised to post more and now I am exercising that promise.
This week has been great! I finished my last exam and now only a paper stands in my way of finishing this semester! In my recovery from exams, I have gone to one of my favorite places in Grahamstown yesterday and today - an drop in center for seniors in the township. I love it! Besides the continuous fact that it is nice to get off campus, every time I go there I laugh, learn new things, and feel like I am in community again. It is great!
This week when Jeremy and I arrived at Entembeni we were greeted with Paper Mache. T
he seniors were making paper mache trays to use in the dining hall. I didn’t know that paper mache could be used for more than middle school art projects, but I was mistaken. It can be rather useful - as I learned from a volunteer from the UK leading the project. You can make all sorts of useful things – dishes, decorations, statues and even chairs and tables! I was amazed. The residents seem to like the activity and it kept us busy both yesterday and today.
On Tuesday, I also got to meet a teenager named Molly. She is the daughter of a woman who does some beading for me named Nomxolo. They are both very kind and help me with my Xhosa – which is rather slow in coming. I was dangerously close to getting a Xhosa
nickname before I was even given a name due to my lack of Xhosa skills. I know the standard greetings and the first work that I learned besides “hello…how are you.., thank you” was “you are welcome” – “wamekelekile”) I said it when the seniors would thank me for bring to them their food and some of them started calling me that. I was saved today, however, when I was given a Xhosa name today! I am hoping that it catches on it is “Nomhle.” The “hl” sound is made in the back of your mouth and is a bit difficult to get, but I think that I have it.
It is nice to have a name, but even better is nice to have a place. I just hope that I can learn their names quickly as well.
This week has been great! I finished my last exam and now only a paper stands in my way of finishing this semester! In my recovery from exams, I have gone to one of my favorite places in Grahamstown yesterday and today - an drop in center for seniors in the township. I love it! Besides the continuous fact that it is nice to get off campus, every time I go there I laugh, learn new things, and feel like I am in community again. It is great!
This week when Jeremy and I arrived at Entembeni we were greeted with Paper Mache. T
he seniors were making paper mache trays to use in the dining hall. I didn’t know that paper mache could be used for more than middle school art projects, but I was mistaken. It can be rather useful - as I learned from a volunteer from the UK leading the project. You can make all sorts of useful things – dishes, decorations, statues and even chairs and tables! I was amazed. The residents seem to like the activity and it kept us busy both yesterday and today.On Tuesday, I also got to meet a teenager named Molly. She is the daughter of a woman who does some beading for me named Nomxolo. They are both very kind and help me with my Xhosa – which is rather slow in coming. I was dangerously close to getting a Xhosa
nickname before I was even given a name due to my lack of Xhosa skills. I know the standard greetings and the first work that I learned besides “hello…how are you.., thank you” was “you are welcome” – “wamekelekile”) I said it when the seniors would thank me for bring to them their food and some of them started calling me that. I was saved today, however, when I was given a Xhosa name today! I am hoping that it catches on it is “Nomhle.” The “hl” sound is made in the back of your mouth and is a bit difficult to get, but I think that I have it.It is nice to have a name, but even better is nice to have a place. I just hope that I can learn their names quickly as well.
Monday, June 2, 2008
Dancing and Exercising
My time of impromptu reflecting comes after a week of Rotary Presentations. As many of you know I am here on a Rotary Ambassadorial Scholarship. Although it is for academic study, it is awarded to people committed to doing service; thus, service projects are community involvement are encouraged. Although my studies have taken a majority of my time here thus far, I have gotten out into the townships and worked with a couple of organizations: Amasango – a school for street children trying to be mainstreamed into public schools and Entembeni – a drop in centre for elderly people for food and fellowship. To the latter I have started going more and each time I am surprised by an experience of joy and I learn a few more things about the Xhosa language and culture. I started going with another American who is here on exchange for his undergraduate degree named Jeremy from Boston. Young and energetic, I think Jeremy’s example of how he has embraced his abroad experience has challenged me to get out more, experience more, and embrace the culture more. He is also super gracious and encourages me to come along whenever I can all the while teaching me the Xhosa words he has become so accustomed to using. I knew of the centre because a couple months ago a group of us visited and had lunch with the members. The lunch was good and very filling, but we didn’t get a lot of time to fellowship with the people, get to know their names or any of their live stories. Thus, I didn’t know the treat I was in for coming back. The first week we danced, the second I learned a new card game, the third we gardened and just yesterday I led exercises to 80’s pop tunes making up the moves as I went along. We even shared music as I taught them the Hokey Pokey and they taught me some cultural music and dance. Throughout the weeks we have also taken three treks out into the township area looking for beads and craft projects. During all of this I have had the opportunity to speak a little with those who understand English and learn a few words like “Molo Unjani” (Hello How Are You?) and “Enkosi” (Thank You). I even learned how to say your welcome (“wamekelekile”) which I said so often as I was serving lunch to the elders that they started teasing me and calling me “wamekelekile.” Although my language learning is going slow, the experience has taught me other things about South Africa and the townships. At one of our Rotary Presentations last week one of the members asked me the lesson I learned the most. From my experiences in Entembeni I thought of the tenacity of the people – despite difficulties, struggles, riots and frustrations experienced by the people – especially those in the townships – they keep going, keep dancing, and keep teaching… In the months to come I look forward to putting away the books and becoming their student – learning more Xhosa and sharing more. Until then…
Pardon my Silence
Pardon My Silence…
I have been silent, because there hasn’t been much to say. A lot has happened here, but with the busy-ness of school and tasks, I haven’t stopped to think, or pray, or be thankful – and I thought that if I spoke I feared all that I would say would be about the busyness – the tasks, the day to day events, the unevaluated life happenings that at face value could be expressed in one manner, but actually through deeper reflection often mean something different. The deeper side of my wants to argue that I didn’t want to share shallow things or the simple reflections; the more honest side knows that I simply didn’t take the time to slow down at all – and simple isn’t bad.
For my silence I am sorry. This is an apology I make to you and to myself. I keep thinking that I will be more prolific when my classes are finished and exams have passed, but I realized today that this is just another excuse not to stop, take a deep breath, and think about the real reason I am here – to learn not just facts, figures and my least favourite – philosophy – but to learn about people, about myself and the perpetual lesson on how to love. I know this takes time, and because I am in the rut of thinking that time is too precious to waste, I forget to invest it in the reflections that although not instantly gratifying, would give me a dividend far surpassing good grades, additional head knowledge and good conversational points.
Now the time has come, ironically in the midst of studying for my final exams, that I fear I can’t procrastinate reflecting or sharing anymore. I will start with a simple story, and perhaps more will come as the week(s) progress. Forgive me my rustiness in sharing and writing, I am sure it will get better with time.
I have been silent, because there hasn’t been much to say. A lot has happened here, but with the busy-ness of school and tasks, I haven’t stopped to think, or pray, or be thankful – and I thought that if I spoke I feared all that I would say would be about the busyness – the tasks, the day to day events, the unevaluated life happenings that at face value could be expressed in one manner, but actually through deeper reflection often mean something different. The deeper side of my wants to argue that I didn’t want to share shallow things or the simple reflections; the more honest side knows that I simply didn’t take the time to slow down at all – and simple isn’t bad.
For my silence I am sorry. This is an apology I make to you and to myself. I keep thinking that I will be more prolific when my classes are finished and exams have passed, but I realized today that this is just another excuse not to stop, take a deep breath, and think about the real reason I am here – to learn not just facts, figures and my least favourite – philosophy – but to learn about people, about myself and the perpetual lesson on how to love. I know this takes time, and because I am in the rut of thinking that time is too precious to waste, I forget to invest it in the reflections that although not instantly gratifying, would give me a dividend far surpassing good grades, additional head knowledge and good conversational points.
Now the time has come, ironically in the midst of studying for my final exams, that I fear I can’t procrastinate reflecting or sharing anymore. I will start with a simple story, and perhaps more will come as the week(s) progress. Forgive me my rustiness in sharing and writing, I am sure it will get better with time.
Sunday, April 27, 2008
A Quest for Ribbon:
As I mentioned a while back, one of the hardest parts (if not the hardest part) about living so far away from home is the missing of big events in life… Eva’s birth, Dave’s graduation, my friend Sara’s baby shower, birthdays, anniversaries, parties, new jobs, moving, transitions, etc. There is a lot – some of it I will be able to catch up on… some of it I won’t – like weddings…
My friend Kris is getting married in May. She has known this for about a year, and I have known that I was going to miss it before then. It is a big bummer to miss such a big day and since I came it has been one of my regrets. I kept thinking… maybe I will be able to make it back… maybe I could skip class and go home for a week… (and when it is really hard here…) maybe I could just go home and not miss any of it! However, when my rationality returns to me I realize that I should probably deal with the fact that I may not be able to participate in the lives of my loves ones in person, but I can participate creatively from far away.
In my attempt to do just that I emailed my friend asking her if there was anything I could provide for the wedding from Africa. I was thinking necklaces for her girls, a fun painting or carving, some fabric… stuff that Africa is known for. She was very gracious and accepted my need to participate and requested that I find some ribbon to wrap around the flowers for her bridesmaids. Great idea… except up until that point (and for the entire year I was in Zambia) I couldn’t remember seeing any ribbon anywhere – except that which you would wrap presents with, probably not appropriate for wrapping flowers. Thus, I knew this quest would be a difficult one. To add to the challenge, she also is having a very creative wedding (anyone who knows Kris – or who has seen her amazing films or scrapbooks - knows the extent of her creative endeavors) and although all of the girls are wearing a nice black summery dress, they are each wearing jewelry of different colors – all in beautiful muted shades: lavender, emerald green, taupe, baby blue, etc. To emphasis why this would add to my challenge I have a simple question for all of you: What do you think of when you think “African colors?” Are any of the colors of Kris’s wedding in your conception? Yeah … my thoughts exactly. This still didn’t deter me; however, because when the request was made I was just starting my travels to Port Elizabeth and Durban.
The Quest started in Port Elizabeth. My friend George and I enjoyed the beach and the shops and searched in all of the ones we went into. However, we couldn’t find a thing, and didn’t know if there was a fabric store around. We met a nice Rotary couple at the end of our stay who knew of a fabric shop – but it was all imported ribbon from Europe. Not ideal in my mind – I really wanted to send African Ribbon. I wasn’t discouraged however, because the next stop was Durban. Durban has a large East Indian population – they have beautiful colors that could be similar to those Kris is requesting and it is a much larger city than Grahamstown; thus, I was thinking this was a good place to find some ribbon. When my friends (Drew, Sarah, and Anna) picked me up from the airport they asked me what I wanted to do while I was there. (They were super gracious because they still had class and a lot of work to do). I said there were three top priorities: go to the beach, go to church on Easter, and find ribbon. The first two were already in their plans for the week. They lamented with me the difficulty of the task, but soon jumped on board.
First lead… One of Drew’s roommates is a South African professional dressmaker, Greg – specializing in formal dresses. Upon first meeting him I asked… where can I find ribbon? He mentioned that to find African ribbon would be virtually impossible – all of the stuff he used was from Europe – bummer! However, he said that there were some ribbon manufacturers in Johannesburg. (I wasn’t going there – but there might be some in the shops around Durban.) He gave me a list of shops and my friends promised to take me. Sporadically during my week in Durban, Sarah, Anna, Drew and I looked for ribbon. We looked at an Indian bizarre – found some, but it wasn’t right… We looked at the mall and even tried to find a ribbon store in downtown Durban. No luck… Finally when Sarah and I were shopping for groceries at another mall I asked a lady and she gave me two places to look. As we searched we were lamenting and brain storming how I would be able to get a good match for all of the seven colors and if I should cave and buy European ribbon in Africa – I guess it would be coming from Africa right?!? I then said something to Sarah that changed the course of the quest… “I wish that she had asked for something beaded! It is so African and so beautiful and you can find different colored beads everywhere!” Then it hit me… If I could find some ivory ribbon… perhaps I could get someone to bead the different colors onto the ribbon and I would have African ribbon – even if the ribbon was from Europe – it would still be African-like! With that I went into the last shop I was looking and found some iridescent ribbon made in Joburg. It was great and would probably work because it shimmered as a lot of different colors. I bought it as a back up to my master plan, but I was now determined that I had a better option and I didn’t want to let it go.
Second lead… I traveled back to Port Elizabeth and stayed with a beautiful Rotary couple – Trevor and Denise Long. I had decided that I would stay and go to the Rotary meeting there and also to an amazing play the next evening. During casual conversation I updated them on my quest and they got on board as well. Later the next day, Denise took me to a shop called Mama’s and we found all sorts of ribbons and beads! I bought all that I needed and some extra, not knowing exactly how this would work and deciding that if I combined some colors perhaps it would get closer to the color needed. It was fun and I was excited. Greg had told me some techniques for sewing beads onto fabric/ribbon while I was still in Durban. I tried that night when I got home. It didn’t look right, but I wasn’t too sad, I had another lead – my favorite craft shop in Grahamstown…
Third lead… Upon returning home from my traveling I attempted to adjust being back. That was the week Eva was born so I was full of emotion (see previous post) and a little down that I couldn’t be closer to home. I distracted myself by doing as much homework as possible and trekking on with my quest for beaded ribbon. First stop: Kisma Crafts. Tracy is a lady there who does all sorts of bead work and beautiful crafts. We became friends when I kept coming back in asking.. “ how do you do that? And that – what is that made out of? “ She sold me some patterns (I now how to make beaded hearts) and continues to chat with me about crafts and pretty things. In need of some support I brought the ribbon and beads to her. At first she despaired a little…mentioning how difficult it would be to get the beads to not droop and to get them in the right patterns on the ribbon so that they could be put on the flowers without overlapping the ribbon onto the beaded part. However, then she looked up and we both say the answer: wire hanging in a spool over her head. She sold it to make the beaded hearts, angels, etc that she sold patterns before. We realized if we could simply put the beads onto the wire, then they could actually be put over the ribbon and didn’t even need to be sewn on! It was such an amazing discovery and we both smiled with the smugness of knowing that we had solved the most challenging aspect of the quest. However, the journey was far from over.
After I had gotten all of the beaded work done, I packaged it all up as well as I can and went to the post office. On my way I met another friend, Sylvia – a Xhosa woman who I had also requested help from. She asked me about my endeavors and I showed her. She sits outside the University and sells her beadwork to students and passersby. She offered to teach me as well someday and I plan on taking her up on the offer. Some of the bead work has a cultural connected, so I am interested in learning more about it! Out of courtesy for her and her interest I bought a little Aids awareness pin and added it to the package (Kris is socially conscious – she would appreciate the small token. Anyway, it was part of the process). When I got to the post office I asked the safest way to send a package. They responded DHL, but that it would cost more than 100$USD. I opted for the alternative, a world ground service that was little more in my price range. Off they went. This was almost four weeks ago…. I was a bit worried that they wouldn’t arrive, but Kris emailed and said they were there!!! Yippie… Quest finished… quest successful..
My friend Kris is getting married in May. She has known this for about a year, and I have known that I was going to miss it before then. It is a big bummer to miss such a big day and since I came it has been one of my regrets. I kept thinking… maybe I will be able to make it back… maybe I could skip class and go home for a week… (and when it is really hard here…) maybe I could just go home and not miss any of it! However, when my rationality returns to me I realize that I should probably deal with the fact that I may not be able to participate in the lives of my loves ones in person, but I can participate creatively from far away.
In my attempt to do just that I emailed my friend asking her if there was anything I could provide for the wedding from Africa. I was thinking necklaces for her girls, a fun painting or carving, some fabric… stuff that Africa is known for. She was very gracious and accepted my need to participate and requested that I find some ribbon to wrap around the flowers for her bridesmaids. Great idea… except up until that point (and for the entire year I was in Zambia) I couldn’t remember seeing any ribbon anywhere – except that which you would wrap presents with, probably not appropriate for wrapping flowers. Thus, I knew this quest would be a difficult one. To add to the challenge, she also is having a very creative wedding (anyone who knows Kris – or who has seen her amazing films or scrapbooks - knows the extent of her creative endeavors) and although all of the girls are wearing a nice black summery dress, they are each wearing jewelry of different colors – all in beautiful muted shades: lavender, emerald green, taupe, baby blue, etc. To emphasis why this would add to my challenge I have a simple question for all of you: What do you think of when you think “African colors?” Are any of the colors of Kris’s wedding in your conception? Yeah … my thoughts exactly. This still didn’t deter me; however, because when the request was made I was just starting my travels to Port Elizabeth and Durban.
The Quest started in Port Elizabeth. My friend George and I enjoyed the beach and the shops and searched in all of the ones we went into. However, we couldn’t find a thing, and didn’t know if there was a fabric store around. We met a nice Rotary couple at the end of our stay who knew of a fabric shop – but it was all imported ribbon from Europe. Not ideal in my mind – I really wanted to send African Ribbon. I wasn’t discouraged however, because the next stop was Durban. Durban has a large East Indian population – they have beautiful colors that could be similar to those Kris is requesting and it is a much larger city than Grahamstown; thus, I was thinking this was a good place to find some ribbon. When my friends (Drew, Sarah, and Anna) picked me up from the airport they asked me what I wanted to do while I was there. (They were super gracious because they still had class and a lot of work to do). I said there were three top priorities: go to the beach, go to church on Easter, and find ribbon. The first two were already in their plans for the week. They lamented with me the difficulty of the task, but soon jumped on board.
First lead… One of Drew’s roommates is a South African professional dressmaker, Greg – specializing in formal dresses. Upon first meeting him I asked… where can I find ribbon? He mentioned that to find African ribbon would be virtually impossible – all of the stuff he used was from Europe – bummer! However, he said that there were some ribbon manufacturers in Johannesburg. (I wasn’t going there – but there might be some in the shops around Durban.) He gave me a list of shops and my friends promised to take me. Sporadically during my week in Durban, Sarah, Anna, Drew and I looked for ribbon. We looked at an Indian bizarre – found some, but it wasn’t right… We looked at the mall and even tried to find a ribbon store in downtown Durban. No luck… Finally when Sarah and I were shopping for groceries at another mall I asked a lady and she gave me two places to look. As we searched we were lamenting and brain storming how I would be able to get a good match for all of the seven colors and if I should cave and buy European ribbon in Africa – I guess it would be coming from Africa right?!? I then said something to Sarah that changed the course of the quest… “I wish that she had asked for something beaded! It is so African and so beautiful and you can find different colored beads everywhere!” Then it hit me… If I could find some ivory ribbon… perhaps I could get someone to bead the different colors onto the ribbon and I would have African ribbon – even if the ribbon was from Europe – it would still be African-like! With that I went into the last shop I was looking and found some iridescent ribbon made in Joburg. It was great and would probably work because it shimmered as a lot of different colors. I bought it as a back up to my master plan, but I was now determined that I had a better option and I didn’t want to let it go.
Second lead… I traveled back to Port Elizabeth and stayed with a beautiful Rotary couple – Trevor and Denise Long. I had decided that I would stay and go to the Rotary meeting there and also to an amazing play the next evening. During casual conversation I updated them on my quest and they got on board as well. Later the next day, Denise took me to a shop called Mama’s and we found all sorts of ribbons and beads! I bought all that I needed and some extra, not knowing exactly how this would work and deciding that if I combined some colors perhaps it would get closer to the color needed. It was fun and I was excited. Greg had told me some techniques for sewing beads onto fabric/ribbon while I was still in Durban. I tried that night when I got home. It didn’t look right, but I wasn’t too sad, I had another lead – my favorite craft shop in Grahamstown…
Third lead… Upon returning home from my traveling I attempted to adjust being back. That was the week Eva was born so I was full of emotion (see previous post) and a little down that I couldn’t be closer to home. I distracted myself by doing as much homework as possible and trekking on with my quest for beaded ribbon. First stop: Kisma Crafts. Tracy is a lady there who does all sorts of bead work and beautiful crafts. We became friends when I kept coming back in asking.. “ how do you do that? And that – what is that made out of? “ She sold me some patterns (I now how to make beaded hearts) and continues to chat with me about crafts and pretty things. In need of some support I brought the ribbon and beads to her. At first she despaired a little…mentioning how difficult it would be to get the beads to not droop and to get them in the right patterns on the ribbon so that they could be put on the flowers without overlapping the ribbon onto the beaded part. However, then she looked up and we both say the answer: wire hanging in a spool over her head. She sold it to make the beaded hearts, angels, etc that she sold patterns before. We realized if we could simply put the beads onto the wire, then they could actually be put over the ribbon and didn’t even need to be sewn on! It was such an amazing discovery and we both smiled with the smugness of knowing that we had solved the most challenging aspect of the quest. However, the journey was far from over.
After I had gotten all of the beaded work done, I packaged it all up as well as I can and went to the post office. On my way I met another friend, Sylvia – a Xhosa woman who I had also requested help from. She asked me about my endeavors and I showed her. She sits outside the University and sells her beadwork to students and passersby. She offered to teach me as well someday and I plan on taking her up on the offer. Some of the bead work has a cultural connected, so I am interested in learning more about it! Out of courtesy for her and her interest I bought a little Aids awareness pin and added it to the package (Kris is socially conscious – she would appreciate the small token. Anyway, it was part of the process). When I got to the post office I asked the safest way to send a package. They responded DHL, but that it would cost more than 100$USD. I opted for the alternative, a world ground service that was little more in my price range. Off they went. This was almost four weeks ago…. I was a bit worried that they wouldn’t arrive, but Kris emailed and said they were there!!! Yippie… Quest finished… quest successful..
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Seeing Elephants and Chasing Monkeys!
Seeing Elephants and Chasing Monkeys!
A couple weekends ago the Sunset Rotary Club in Grahamstown took me and the other three scholars - Eben, Haley, and Rosa (seen above) - to Addo Elephant Park. It was fun to be out of the University and in nature camping for a whole weekend. It was also fun to remember that I am in Africa – not just staying at a University attempting to intake large amounts of knowledge in massive chunks. For three days all I had to do was intake large amounts of scenery and it was beautiful!
We were warned before our arrival that we may only see a couple of elephants. Even though there are 450 elephants in the park, the park is big and they have a lot of room to roam – a good thing for sure. The warning proved to be futile however, because our very first night camping next to the game park we say 4 elephants at the watering hole. It was fun to breathe deep and enjoy the awesomeness of being so close (about 50 yards away separated by a very large fence). I am glad that we enjoyed that moment because it only got better. The next day we drove into the park and started our first of many wart hog sightings. These creatures (Pumbas as you might recall from the lion king – a name that rightfully so means warthog in Swahili) are very cute in an odd sort of way and squeak like pigs. They get down on their knees when they are eating and they run with their tales straight up in the air. We searched for some Meer cats so see if there were any Timons around, but couldn’t find any. We also saw Ostriches at the beginning of our trek and kudu – which I ate later at the restaurant and I heard is very healthy for you! It wasn’t too long, however,
until we saw the elephants again – once again drinking from a watering hole in all of their majesty. We were content with the morning, but drove on since it was still early… then we came upon the jackpot – two full grown elephants standing in the road ahead of us. They moved to the side and we were able to drive next to them. In fact we got so close that I was able to make eye contact with one. But when it’s ears started to wave we decided that it was time to drive away (Ear waving is one of the early signs of aggression). We drove only to be stopped by a car that told us that there were TONS of elephants ahead at a watering hole down the road. The driver wasn’t lying either, we counted close to 40 elephants in one place with some babies as well! Later during the drive we stopped at a look out and were able to see the elephants while we were on foot – separated from each other by a nice big wooden fence. It is amazing to see how huge they are! We stood underneath a stuffed head of an elephant that had died in the park and there was enough room for a 6 foot person under there.
As we drove back from our excitement we saw a tortoise lumbering slowly across the street and a number of birds – called butcher birds – because they hang the bugs and small reptiles that they catch out on display to attract other insects and also for the males to show off their providing skills.
When we got back to the camp we were greeted by a Rotary member that told us we had had visitors in our tent while we were gone. I had brilliantly left our food in our tent and the monkey had opened the zipper (it is really hilarious they can do that!) went into our tent – opened everyone’ backpack until she finally found the bananas in my backpack. She then took the bananas out of the skin and ran away with a fist (and mouth) full of banana. We thought it was hilarious! The only regret we have is that we didn’t get to see the shenanigan – only got to see the evidence thereof. I guess we are lucky that they didn’t steal anything valuable – they are known to like shiny things!
A couple weekends ago the Sunset Rotary Club in Grahamstown took me and the other three scholars - Eben, Haley, and Rosa (seen above) - to Addo Elephant Park. It was fun to be out of the University and in nature camping for a whole weekend. It was also fun to remember that I am in Africa – not just staying at a University attempting to intake large amounts of knowledge in massive chunks. For three days all I had to do was intake large amounts of scenery and it was beautiful!
We were warned before our arrival that we may only see a couple of elephants. Even though there are 450 elephants in the park, the park is big and they have a lot of room to roam – a good thing for sure. The warning proved to be futile however, because our very first night camping next to the game park we say 4 elephants at the watering hole. It was fun to breathe deep and enjoy the awesomeness of being so close (about 50 yards away separated by a very large fence). I am glad that we enjoyed that moment because it only got better. The next day we drove into the park and started our first of many wart hog sightings. These creatures (Pumbas as you might recall from the lion king – a name that rightfully so means warthog in Swahili) are very cute in an odd sort of way and squeak like pigs. They get down on their knees when they are eating and they run with their tales straight up in the air. We searched for some Meer cats so see if there were any Timons around, but couldn’t find any. We also saw Ostriches at the beginning of our trek and kudu – which I ate later at the restaurant and I heard is very healthy for you! It wasn’t too long, however,
until we saw the elephants again – once again drinking from a watering hole in all of their majesty. We were content with the morning, but drove on since it was still early… then we came upon the jackpot – two full grown elephants standing in the road ahead of us. They moved to the side and we were able to drive next to them. In fact we got so close that I was able to make eye contact with one. But when it’s ears started to wave we decided that it was time to drive away (Ear waving is one of the early signs of aggression). We drove only to be stopped by a car that told us that there were TONS of elephants ahead at a watering hole down the road. The driver wasn’t lying either, we counted close to 40 elephants in one place with some babies as well! Later during the drive we stopped at a look out and were able to see the elephants while we were on foot – separated from each other by a nice big wooden fence. It is amazing to see how huge they are! We stood underneath a stuffed head of an elephant that had died in the park and there was enough room for a 6 foot person under there.
As we drove back from our excitement we saw a tortoise lumbering slowly across the street and a number of birds – called butcher birds – because they hang the bugs and small reptiles that they catch out on display to attract other insects and also for the males to show off their providing skills.
When we got back to the camp we were greeted by a Rotary member that told us we had had visitors in our tent while we were gone. I had brilliantly left our food in our tent and the monkey had opened the zipper (it is really hilarious they can do that!) went into our tent – opened everyone’ backpack until she finally found the bananas in my backpack. She then took the bananas out of the skin and ran away with a fist (and mouth) full of banana. We thought it was hilarious! The only regret we have is that we didn’t get to see the shenanigan – only got to see the evidence thereof. I guess we are lucky that they didn’t steal anything valuable – they are known to like shiny things!
That evening we saw some jackals far away at the watering hole and the next day we saw a herd of buffalo there as well. All in all I would say it was a very successful viewing weekend
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Back at School...
My studies…
Obviously life has been busy if it has taken me this long to write an update. It has been a bit of an adjustment being back at school since the Easter break. It was a bit of a premature break because it happened a third of the way through our studies instead of half way through, so this term will be a long one and I am feeling it already! Just to give all of those who are interested a background on my studies I thought that I would tell you a bit about my classes. I am enrolled in a Masters Program here in International Studies. It is part of the politics department so many of my classes are in international relations. I only have three classes that are required and in order to expedite my studies I decided to take all three this semesterJ That was a good idea for quickness, but perhaps not a good idea for saneness. Each of my classes meets once a week, and for each I have a lot of reading and writing. I am fairly good at the former and miserable at the latter! I think I am getting better, but we’ll have to see if my marks improve to tellJ
On Tuesday I have my International Relations Theory Class. The highlight of this class has come in the past few weeks as we have been able to talk about how international politics influenced by transnational corporations (i.e. large NGOs like Amnesty International and campaigns like the STOP THE TRAFFIK campaign) effect world politics. I gave a presentation on this topic a couple of weeks ago focusing on the International Campaign to Ban Landmines (ICBL) and its effectiveness in swaying governmental position on humanitarian issues. It was fun – especially since I was able to meet Jody Williams (the long time head of the ICBL and the co-winner of the 1997 Nobel Peace Prize with ICBL) – thanks Peace Jam!!!
On Wednesday I have an International Relations during the Cold War Class. It is also interesting and in honor of my nuclear engineer husband to be – I did my first presentation on the Nuclear Non-Proliferation Movements of the Early Cold War. One thing I would encourage everyone to look up is the Atoms for Peace Speech made by Eisenhower in 1953... it is pretty interesting.
On Thursday, I have a class called Freedom and Domination. I can sum this class up by stating that I feel like I am being dominated by political philosophy, Gramsci, ideology and hegemony. The consolation prize for the pain that this class puts me through is twofold: 1. Making it through and having a new found respect for anyone who can do philosophy (I do believe that it is an art in which I am inept)… 2. Having a new vocabulary to take about social issues (ideology, hegemony). I did find a new good way of explaining this class and my struggles - I decided that to me philosophy is like trying to find Waldo when you’re colorblind.
On the rest of my days of week I read, write and attempted to take breaks whenever I can… in summary being in school is not as easy as I remembered it.
The highlight of my time is spent on my thesis with my very helpful thesis advisor. This is good since it take up the entirety of my time come the fall. My topic: The NGO response to child soldiers in Subsaharan Africa. I am excited to see how much of it I can get done in the fall months before I come back home in six months!!!
Obviously life has been busy if it has taken me this long to write an update. It has been a bit of an adjustment being back at school since the Easter break. It was a bit of a premature break because it happened a third of the way through our studies instead of half way through, so this term will be a long one and I am feeling it already! Just to give all of those who are interested a background on my studies I thought that I would tell you a bit about my classes. I am enrolled in a Masters Program here in International Studies. It is part of the politics department so many of my classes are in international relations. I only have three classes that are required and in order to expedite my studies I decided to take all three this semesterJ That was a good idea for quickness, but perhaps not a good idea for saneness. Each of my classes meets once a week, and for each I have a lot of reading and writing. I am fairly good at the former and miserable at the latter! I think I am getting better, but we’ll have to see if my marks improve to tellJ
On Tuesday I have my International Relations Theory Class. The highlight of this class has come in the past few weeks as we have been able to talk about how international politics influenced by transnational corporations (i.e. large NGOs like Amnesty International and campaigns like the STOP THE TRAFFIK campaign) effect world politics. I gave a presentation on this topic a couple of weeks ago focusing on the International Campaign to Ban Landmines (ICBL) and its effectiveness in swaying governmental position on humanitarian issues. It was fun – especially since I was able to meet Jody Williams (the long time head of the ICBL and the co-winner of the 1997 Nobel Peace Prize with ICBL) – thanks Peace Jam!!!
On Wednesday I have an International Relations during the Cold War Class. It is also interesting and in honor of my nuclear engineer husband to be – I did my first presentation on the Nuclear Non-Proliferation Movements of the Early Cold War. One thing I would encourage everyone to look up is the Atoms for Peace Speech made by Eisenhower in 1953... it is pretty interesting.
On Thursday, I have a class called Freedom and Domination. I can sum this class up by stating that I feel like I am being dominated by political philosophy, Gramsci, ideology and hegemony. The consolation prize for the pain that this class puts me through is twofold: 1. Making it through and having a new found respect for anyone who can do philosophy (I do believe that it is an art in which I am inept)… 2. Having a new vocabulary to take about social issues (ideology, hegemony). I did find a new good way of explaining this class and my struggles - I decided that to me philosophy is like trying to find Waldo when you’re colorblind.
On the rest of my days of week I read, write and attempted to take breaks whenever I can… in summary being in school is not as easy as I remembered it.
The highlight of my time is spent on my thesis with my very helpful thesis advisor. This is good since it take up the entirety of my time come the fall. My topic: The NGO response to child soldiers in Subsaharan Africa. I am excited to see how much of it I can get done in the fall months before I come back home in six months!!!
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
A Blessed Moment in Port Elizabeth
I have so much to share about my Easter celebrations in Durban, but that must wait until later. Now, I need to share something so special that it trumps every other experience right now - including amazing South Africa... I am an AUNT for the first time as of yesterday. Her name is Eva Margaret VerHage and she is seven pounds eleven ounces. It is so exciting and I am filled with a mixture of emotions... happiness, relief that everyone is ok, sadness and longing for my family and Dave. It is such an amazing miracle! The last baby I held was at a place called Amasango. There is a fifteen year old girl there that had a tiny baby early last month. They call her "baby Jane" after the benevelent head mistress Jane. She is also beautiful, but a lot of people forget because there are so many problems and it isn't easy being a young mother here - or anywhere. I wish that Eva and Jane could meet someday... share experiences... help each other. Knowing my brother and sister in law - Eva will be encouraged to do so. And knowing South Africa, Jane will welcome her and all of the help and love she can give. It is sort of a weird dream... but it is my reality right now, so I can't help it.
In preparation for yesterday (we knew the baby was coming because she was sitting upright and needed to be taken out rather than come out herself)... I took a walk on the beach and prayed long prayers for health and happiness. The Ocean is beautiful in Port Elizabeth, so it wasn't hard to feel the greatness of God and the presence of life. I went into some shops for a coke and bought a dress for Eva that says LOVE africa... then I walked back to the beach and past some Zimbabwean artists selling their wears. She still hadn't been born at that time and I was starting to get a little worried because I hadn't heard anything. The artists were packing up their goods as I walked by and I almost didn't stop, but I saw this beautiful sculpture of two parents holding the hand of a child... I turned around and bought it ... knowing my family would appreciate it and also hoping that in doing so I could be part of the experience... at least in spirit. I bartered for the statue, and paid a fare price, but now I wish that I hadn't. Sometime on special days it is better to be generous and not worry about the cost. I walked all the way from the beach to the house where I was staying. It took about 45 minutes, but I didn't mind - sometimes walking feels like an accomplishment or at least a pre-occupation when moments are difficult or full of emotion. When I got home I continued to text Dave asking for updates. He tried to call, but couldn't get through. I was thinking that I might miss the announcement. However, right before dinner, my cell phone rang and it was a Chicago number (a rarity on my SA cell phone because most people use calling cards when calling because of the cost. It seems my brother also agrees that on special days things should be well paid for:) It was Peter telling me all about his beautiful daughter and first moments as a brand new dad. I could hear the joy in his voice and the happiness of our family. She's alert, happy and has my eyes:)
One of the hardest parts about being abroad as an Ambassadorial Scholar is being away from family and friends; missing big events of life and trying to understand if it is worth it – the big adventure at the expense of the normal cherished moments of life. Although it is hard and I have shed numerous tears mourning the passing of memories I missed, I have to believe that it is worth it to experience these moments that are defining and memories in their own way. That isn’t to say that if I could I would fly home today to share the happiness of my family and friends in their big moments, or run to their side if they are sad; it is just to say that by being here “not just on vacation” is a defining memory that I hope to share with my new married friends and Eva when she gets older. I hope to introduce my friends to new ones here, and share the beautiful uniqueness of Africa with them. Thus, while I miss the community at home… the one that sent me here and loves me from afar… I am blessed to be here and will cherish it – even when the blessing hurts.
In preparation for yesterday (we knew the baby was coming because she was sitting upright and needed to be taken out rather than come out herself)... I took a walk on the beach and prayed long prayers for health and happiness. The Ocean is beautiful in Port Elizabeth, so it wasn't hard to feel the greatness of God and the presence of life. I went into some shops for a coke and bought a dress for Eva that says LOVE africa... then I walked back to the beach and past some Zimbabwean artists selling their wears. She still hadn't been born at that time and I was starting to get a little worried because I hadn't heard anything. The artists were packing up their goods as I walked by and I almost didn't stop, but I saw this beautiful sculpture of two parents holding the hand of a child... I turned around and bought it ... knowing my family would appreciate it and also hoping that in doing so I could be part of the experience... at least in spirit. I bartered for the statue, and paid a fare price, but now I wish that I hadn't. Sometime on special days it is better to be generous and not worry about the cost. I walked all the way from the beach to the house where I was staying. It took about 45 minutes, but I didn't mind - sometimes walking feels like an accomplishment or at least a pre-occupation when moments are difficult or full of emotion. When I got home I continued to text Dave asking for updates. He tried to call, but couldn't get through. I was thinking that I might miss the announcement. However, right before dinner, my cell phone rang and it was a Chicago number (a rarity on my SA cell phone because most people use calling cards when calling because of the cost. It seems my brother also agrees that on special days things should be well paid for:) It was Peter telling me all about his beautiful daughter and first moments as a brand new dad. I could hear the joy in his voice and the happiness of our family. She's alert, happy and has my eyes:)
One of the hardest parts about being abroad as an Ambassadorial Scholar is being away from family and friends; missing big events of life and trying to understand if it is worth it – the big adventure at the expense of the normal cherished moments of life. Although it is hard and I have shed numerous tears mourning the passing of memories I missed, I have to believe that it is worth it to experience these moments that are defining and memories in their own way. That isn’t to say that if I could I would fly home today to share the happiness of my family and friends in their big moments, or run to their side if they are sad; it is just to say that by being here “not just on vacation” is a defining memory that I hope to share with my new married friends and Eva when she gets older. I hope to introduce my friends to new ones here, and share the beautiful uniqueness of Africa with them. Thus, while I miss the community at home… the one that sent me here and loves me from afar… I am blessed to be here and will cherish it – even when the blessing hurts.
Thursday, March 20, 2008
A Breath of Fresh Air in Durban
I am committed to keep this blog shorter, since I just wrote yesterday and I am bound to write again after I get back "home" to Grahamstown. As I indicated yesterday I am using part of my two week break to see the closer parts of South Africa. I was on the coast in the Eastern Cape (my home state in SA) over the weekend and now I am in Durban (further up the coast). It has been a lovely, relaxing time. I am here visiting four other scholars who are at the University of Kwa-Zulu Natal in Durban studying International Development. They are a beautiful group and have given me the best vacation I could have wanted this term: relaxing, low key, with tons of time to reflect of the past and dream of the future. I have taken long walks with them to school; read a very good book by Brian McLaren in bed; had wonderful conversations with the others about God, purpose and community; and spent the day today working on my thesis and Skyping Belgium about human trafficking. Yes, this really is my idea of a perfect vacation! I didn't have time last semester to really spend time reflecting and enjoying the experience of being here, and I realize how much I need that practice in my life. I feel very fortunate to be here and to take it all in. I especially feel blessed by the community I have here and abroad. It is very nice to be able to dialogue about poverty and practical means of addressing it, talk about how we can vote in socially conscious ways, and brainstorm ways to get involved in the community to learn and give back. I am greatful and hope that this Easter season all of you get the same gift of Reflection.
Now, it's time to journal:)
Now, it's time to journal:)
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Traveling During the Easter Holidays
We've only been in class for five weeks, and we already have a two- week break. Because Easter is such a big holiday here, Rhodes decided to rearrange our quarters so that we had one short (the first) quarter and one long (the second quarter). The other scholars from Rhodes are on a road trip to Namibia for the two week break. Although the idea was extremely enticing, I decided to forgo a long car trip and stay in South Africa to see some of the local sites. Thus on Saturday morning with one of the PhD politics students from Rhodes, we took off for three of the coastal towns in the Eastern Cape: Kenton on the Sea, Port Alfred and Port Elizabeth. Because summer is ending and I still hadn't had a beach trip, these were the top destinations in my mind. Unfortunately the weather didn't exactly want to cooperated and even though there were sunny skies in Grahamstown when we left, when we reached the coast it was dreary, rainy and cold! Ick! We tried to make the most of it and took a walk on the beach in Kenton on the Sea and went to a Pizza place called Aloha in Port Alfred, we finally gave up and decided that Port Elizabeth was our best bet for finding a nice backpackers and some inside entertainment.
Port Elizabeth was beautiful and didn't disappoint. We stayed at a backpackers called Jikeleza. It was nice and quiet which is what we were looking for. It did have its nice quirks for backpackers: a random mongoose on a ledge playing peek-a-boo with us, a half of an mannequin in the courtyard underneath some bushes, a caretaker/manager who would talk non-stop when you were in common areas and even waited for me to get off the phone with Dave one morning so that he could continue! It was great! Because of the rain we went to a shopping centre called the Boardwalk. Having fond memories of the California boardwalk, I was ready to be disappointed, but I was rather impressed. There was a movie theatre, mini-golf, an arcade and shops. It was lit with Christmas lights in the evening and Georgina and I enjoyed a nice meal of fried calamari and french fries before we went to see Fool's Gold with Kate Hudson and Matthew McConaughey. I am surprised how amusing bad movies can be when one hasn't seen TV for a long time - it was nice! After that we went back to the backpackers and prayed for sunshine the next day.
We got it - Sunday was a beautiful day and we spent it mostly outside. I have to admit that I normally make it a point to not miss Palm Sunday at church, but walking outside in fellowship with nature was gorgeous and I loved it! We walked down a real boardwalk with a craft market and enjoyed the sunshine and the beautiful craftsmanship. I have missed this part of Africa. Grahamstown has crafts, but not markets - one of my favorite parts of Africa! I bought a stone turtle (I love getting turtles from different countries) and a stone carving of two people kissing! I was feeling romantic. We also bought some delicious chocolates from an Afrikaner's candy maker- he was adorable and such a great salesman. Plus we only paid 5 rand for three truffles! The price and quality were amazing! The rest of the day we spent on the beach and back at the Boardwalk.
Monday we drove up the coast and found a secluded beach to explore - it was great with a lot of wildlife. We saw a dead jellyfish, some urchins skeletons, little fish, and a whole school of dolphins riding the waves into the shore. It was simply majestic. After our chill morning and afternoon, George dropped me off at the house of a Rotary Couple - the Longs. I can't emphasize how much I am impressed with the hospitality of the Rotarians I have encountered. It is sort of like visiting someone who you've known for a while, and am regaining contact with. They welcomed me into their home and I was able to talk with them about my experience thus far and dialogue about what I have learned and hope to learn. We had planned on having a cooked meal for dinner, but the power was cut at 4:00 and we had sandwiches instead - they were great as well. (side note: although the power cuts are widespread throughout the country in Grahamstown we haven't been as affected by the cuts. I am learning some of the downfalls in the larger cities concerning power as I travel). After dinner we went to a holy week service where the Methodist Pastor spoke about the foundation of the temple and it's implication for our lives. He quoted Walter Wink (a theological hero of mine) and later told me that he was actually friends with the author. I was greatly impressed. After that we went home and after expressing my interest of the book that they were reading in their small group, Denise encouraged me to borrow it for the second half of my trip to Durban. It is called Everything Must Change by Brian McLaren. Although I am only on chapter 8 now, I would encourage everyone to read it. It is amazing and I am loving his insight into social issues.
Now I am in Durban visiting four other Rotary Scholars. Their hospitality is very beautiful - just like the Rotarians who sponsored them - and I am enjoying getting to see a new city through their eyes. They are still in classes, writing papers, and getting tons of work done, so I have had the time that I needed to reflect write and getting ready for the next quarter awaiting me. This weekend we have plans for Good Friday and Easter and seeing more of the uniqueness of Durban. I am excited for it, but also excited to get to know them a bit better and think more about this amazing experience that I am privileged to be on.
I hope all of you are well! God Bless... with lots of love - alicia
Port Elizabeth was beautiful and didn't disappoint. We stayed at a backpackers called Jikeleza. It was nice and quiet which is what we were looking for. It did have its nice quirks for backpackers: a random mongoose on a ledge playing peek-a-boo with us, a half of an mannequin in the courtyard underneath some bushes, a caretaker/manager who would talk non-stop when you were in common areas and even waited for me to get off the phone with Dave one morning so that he could continue! It was great! Because of the rain we went to a shopping centre called the Boardwalk. Having fond memories of the California boardwalk, I was ready to be disappointed, but I was rather impressed. There was a movie theatre, mini-golf, an arcade and shops. It was lit with Christmas lights in the evening and Georgina and I enjoyed a nice meal of fried calamari and french fries before we went to see Fool's Gold with Kate Hudson and Matthew McConaughey. I am surprised how amusing bad movies can be when one hasn't seen TV for a long time - it was nice! After that we went back to the backpackers and prayed for sunshine the next day.
We got it - Sunday was a beautiful day and we spent it mostly outside. I have to admit that I normally make it a point to not miss Palm Sunday at church, but walking outside in fellowship with nature was gorgeous and I loved it! We walked down a real boardwalk with a craft market and enjoyed the sunshine and the beautiful craftsmanship. I have missed this part of Africa. Grahamstown has crafts, but not markets - one of my favorite parts of Africa! I bought a stone turtle (I love getting turtles from different countries) and a stone carving of two people kissing! I was feeling romantic. We also bought some delicious chocolates from an Afrikaner's candy maker- he was adorable and such a great salesman. Plus we only paid 5 rand for three truffles! The price and quality were amazing! The rest of the day we spent on the beach and back at the Boardwalk.
Monday we drove up the coast and found a secluded beach to explore - it was great with a lot of wildlife. We saw a dead jellyfish, some urchins skeletons, little fish, and a whole school of dolphins riding the waves into the shore. It was simply majestic. After our chill morning and afternoon, George dropped me off at the house of a Rotary Couple - the Longs. I can't emphasize how much I am impressed with the hospitality of the Rotarians I have encountered. It is sort of like visiting someone who you've known for a while, and am regaining contact with. They welcomed me into their home and I was able to talk with them about my experience thus far and dialogue about what I have learned and hope to learn. We had planned on having a cooked meal for dinner, but the power was cut at 4:00 and we had sandwiches instead - they were great as well. (side note: although the power cuts are widespread throughout the country in Grahamstown we haven't been as affected by the cuts. I am learning some of the downfalls in the larger cities concerning power as I travel). After dinner we went to a holy week service where the Methodist Pastor spoke about the foundation of the temple and it's implication for our lives. He quoted Walter Wink (a theological hero of mine) and later told me that he was actually friends with the author. I was greatly impressed. After that we went home and after expressing my interest of the book that they were reading in their small group, Denise encouraged me to borrow it for the second half of my trip to Durban. It is called Everything Must Change by Brian McLaren. Although I am only on chapter 8 now, I would encourage everyone to read it. It is amazing and I am loving his insight into social issues.
Now I am in Durban visiting four other Rotary Scholars. Their hospitality is very beautiful - just like the Rotarians who sponsored them - and I am enjoying getting to see a new city through their eyes. They are still in classes, writing papers, and getting tons of work done, so I have had the time that I needed to reflect write and getting ready for the next quarter awaiting me. This weekend we have plans for Good Friday and Easter and seeing more of the uniqueness of Durban. I am excited for it, but also excited to get to know them a bit better and think more about this amazing experience that I am privileged to be on.
I hope all of you are well! God Bless... with lots of love - alicia
Saturday, March 8, 2008
A Month Already!!
It has been a month already since I have come to South Africa from Brussels. Amazing!
I apologize for my absense in communication. I am just getting a blog and have been so busy with new places, travel and getting used to being a full time student again at Rhodes University in Grahamstown. For those of you who don't know I am currently on a Rotary Ambassadorial Scholarship to study International Relations and Politics here for a year. It has been great so far and I wanted to share (hopefully much more frequently now) a couple of highlights:
South Africa:
It is great to be back in Africa after being gone for 2 and a half years. I missed it and I am enjoying the familiarity of it. However, SA is very different than Zambia and it took a bit for me to get used to that. First for the most part SA is very Western. I can get everything here that I could get in the States and don't have to wait until I can make a special trip into the city. Second, I actually blend in here and oftentimes I have had to inform people that just because I look dutch doesn't mean that I speak a word of Afrikaans. (Except I have learned "Danke" - which means "Thank You." Third, everyone wears Western clothing as well. I miss my chitenges, but I am comfortable in my jeans and T-shirts.
Grahamstown:
The city I am in is very endearing. I am on the Eastern Cape in town called Grahamstown in "Frontier Country." It is where a lot of farmers settled in the nineteenth century. If you want to read more about it, you should visit this website: http://www.grahamstown.co.za. It gives a great overview. It is called the city of churches because there are literally dozens all over the city. It also is called the city of festivals because it hosts numerous festivals throughout the year, the most famous being the National Arts Festival in June and July. I am looking forward taking advantage of all of these treasures while I am here. Grahamstown is also a small town/college town. I often walk down the street in town center and see people who I know from University and elsewhere.
Rhodes University:
Grahamstown is a college town because of Rhodes University - the University I am attending. The University has been around for more than a hundred years and is very nice and tough (I have found out in the last couple of weeks:) I am attempting to get an MA in International Relations through the Politics department and hopefully will be able to finish by November when I come back home. To so I will take three classes and then write a thesis. My classes are: International Relations Theory, Freedom and Domination, and the Cold War. I believe that my thesis will be on Child Soldiers and the various ways in which NGOs address the issue. This helps for me to continue some of my work with Trafficking victims and issues. So far I like the classes and am learning a lot.
Rotary:
Being hosted by Rotary has been amazing! There are four scholars here at Rhodes and we have been treated like family by the two Rotary clubs here and all of the Rotarians. So far we have been hosted for dinner five times, given a tour of Grahamstown, and brought sweets and treats to our rooms by various Rotarians. We have also gotten to shadow service projects that Rotarians are involved in and get involved ourselves. It has been great. I believe that I will be volunteering with a school for street children called Amasango as well as looking for a way to get involved with doing some Peace and Conflict Resolution Activities. I am looking forward to all of it!
That is all for now. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers. Please shoot me an email if you would like – my email is aliciaverhage@yahoo.com and my address here in Grahamstown is
Alicia VerHage
Rhodes University
Lilian Britten
Private Bag 1032
Grahamstown 6139
South Africa
Lots of love –
alicia
I apologize for my absense in communication. I am just getting a blog and have been so busy with new places, travel and getting used to being a full time student again at Rhodes University in Grahamstown. For those of you who don't know I am currently on a Rotary Ambassadorial Scholarship to study International Relations and Politics here for a year. It has been great so far and I wanted to share (hopefully much more frequently now) a couple of highlights:
South Africa:
It is great to be back in Africa after being gone for 2 and a half years. I missed it and I am enjoying the familiarity of it. However, SA is very different than Zambia and it took a bit for me to get used to that. First for the most part SA is very Western. I can get everything here that I could get in the States and don't have to wait until I can make a special trip into the city. Second, I actually blend in here and oftentimes I have had to inform people that just because I look dutch doesn't mean that I speak a word of Afrikaans. (Except I have learned "Danke" - which means "Thank You." Third, everyone wears Western clothing as well. I miss my chitenges, but I am comfortable in my jeans and T-shirts.
Grahamstown:
The city I am in is very endearing. I am on the Eastern Cape in town called Grahamstown in "Frontier Country." It is where a lot of farmers settled in the nineteenth century. If you want to read more about it, you should visit this website: http://www.grahamstown.co.za. It gives a great overview. It is called the city of churches because there are literally dozens all over the city. It also is called the city of festivals because it hosts numerous festivals throughout the year, the most famous being the National Arts Festival in June and July. I am looking forward taking advantage of all of these treasures while I am here. Grahamstown is also a small town/college town. I often walk down the street in town center and see people who I know from University and elsewhere.
Rhodes University:
Grahamstown is a college town because of Rhodes University - the University I am attending. The University has been around for more than a hundred years and is very nice and tough (I have found out in the last couple of weeks:) I am attempting to get an MA in International Relations through the Politics department and hopefully will be able to finish by November when I come back home. To so I will take three classes and then write a thesis. My classes are: International Relations Theory, Freedom and Domination, and the Cold War. I believe that my thesis will be on Child Soldiers and the various ways in which NGOs address the issue. This helps for me to continue some of my work with Trafficking victims and issues. So far I like the classes and am learning a lot.
Rotary:
Being hosted by Rotary has been amazing! There are four scholars here at Rhodes and we have been treated like family by the two Rotary clubs here and all of the Rotarians. So far we have been hosted for dinner five times, given a tour of Grahamstown, and brought sweets and treats to our rooms by various Rotarians. We have also gotten to shadow service projects that Rotarians are involved in and get involved ourselves. It has been great. I believe that I will be volunteering with a school for street children called Amasango as well as looking for a way to get involved with doing some Peace and Conflict Resolution Activities. I am looking forward to all of it!
That is all for now. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers. Please shoot me an email if you would like – my email is aliciaverhage@yahoo.com and my address here in Grahamstown is
Alicia VerHage
Rhodes University
Lilian Britten
Private Bag 1032
Grahamstown 6139
South Africa
Lots of love –
alicia
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